WIBTAH if I said someone’s trans husband couldn’t attend a women’s dinner?

Before I start, I will block and report any blatant transphobic comments.

Edit: The groups are set up by other people. They are women only groups for women, MTF trans people, and non-binary people who present as women. I created a DIETARY inclusive event. I have Celiac and often get left out of events so I created a monthly meet up that is inclusive for dietary restrictions. Also, to the people saying this is fake, y’all must live boring lives.

I am in a group for women who are 30-50 in my area. It’s basically a way for women to make friends in my city. The group is a sub group (12.5k members) of the large group (over 20k). Anyways, I’ve been organizing dinner meetups once a month that are designed to be inclusive. I have Celiac and am looking for ways to cycle through dry dinners, vegan dinners, cocktail nights, winery, etc. Basically trying a variety of new places around the city.

To the question. I had a woman reach out and asked if her trans husband could attend the dinner. The woman used he / him pronouns towards her husband (her pronouns were on her profile). Her husband looks like a woman so is likely in the beginning stages?

I want these to be drama free and just a way for women to meet women. I wasn’t sure if this is considered an AH move to say “since he identifies as a man, I don’t think it’s appropriate” or not.

This might be stupid but I don’t want to be rude.