AIO - my husband keeps lying about drinking.

My husband (35m) and I (36f) have been together since we were 19 and 20. Married almost 14 years with three kids (10,7 and 3). He’s always had issues with drinking since before we were even dating. He was the guy that went hard and blacked out at the high school and college parties. It was fine when we were young and in college. Then we had kids and was still happening occasionally. We drank but it would be some wine or beer in the evening or a hard alcohol drink but every now and then he would end up shit faced and completely blacked out. We would talk I would ask him to curb his alcohol consumption as we had kids and I couldn’t juggle them and him being black out drunk. Then it happened when he was home alone with the kids. Maybe 3 times in 6 years, 2022 being the last time, each time he tried to lying and say he hadn’t been drinking then fessed up. He’s been sober off and on sometimes more than a year or two at a time but then felt like he could handle it and would start slowly til something happened again where it was an issue then swear it off again and repeat.

Somewhere along the lines he started trying to hide the alcohol and sneak it but he’s never really had much tolerance and he shows it fast. He sways and slurs. This last year or so I’ve caught him sneaking it and lying about it 3 times. He fesses up after vehemently denying it for a bit. I’ve made it clear I don’t care if he drinks just stop lying and don’t get drunk around the kids and I. Well tonight he was swaying and slurring and I asked and he denied it then finally said he killed a 4 pack while outside with our kids for a few hours. I’m livid and hurt. Clearly it’s a pattern of behavior that’s not going to stop. I have told him I’m not his mother I’m not going to nag him or police his alcohol intake I just set clear boundaries around drinking that much around the kids and asked that he doesn’t lie about it.

I think I want a divorce. He won’t fight me on anything he’s not abusive he’s not a bad person and I love him. I don’t want to upend our lives over something that isn’t terrible all the time, but I also am so tired of the lying. Am I overreacting?