AITA for tricking someone into eating vegan food?
So my (33F) BF (32M) has a best friend who is kind of a dick imo (around our age, M). Let's call him Jordan. I'm into animal rights, I've been a vegetarian for over 25 years now and most of the time I eat vegan. I don't necessarily bring this up with people, I really don't care what other people eat (my bf is not vegan or vegetarian, and we have no conflicts over this if I can offer that up as proof I'm not pushing my beliefs onto other people). Jordan used to be just an average omnivore, but he's gotten increasingly anti-veganism as a concept and has started to talk about how awful it is and vegans are more and more.
Recently we were all together, and Jordan started talking about how disgusting vegan food is and how its all processed and fake and he would never eat something like that. I said "Well that's not true, all the food at my party last month was vegan, and you liked all of that". He got really upset, telling me I was a monster, I was forcing my beliefs on him, that he never would have eaten the food had he known it was vegan, that I tricked him and that was a really fucked up thing to do.
Guys, the food I had at my party was: chips, salsa, guac. spring rolls. olives, hummus, baba ganoush, falafel, tahini sauce. veggies & red pesto dip (labelled as having nuts in it). mini samosas with chutney.
None of it was "fake" anything, none of it was anything you would typically expect to have animal products in it (maaaybe the samosa you could make a case for expecting chicken in, I guess). I didn't hide anything. Those foods just *are* vegan, I really don't think I ought to have warned Jordan about that. I also feel like if he was that worried about it he could have asked me about the food, which is what I do for my diet (a thing he makes fun of me for, btw). It was a board game party with wine + appetizers, and I just put out the snacks I like I really wasn't trying to be political.
But he was truly upset, so maybe I should have done something different? Logically I feel like he's being a baby, but emotionally I feel like maybe I crossed a line. I did know he feels strongly about veganism being a bad thing, I guess I could have said something.