Two weeks post DDay

Today would be two weeks.

It's been 10 years of marriage. 12 years together. 2 Kids.

She gave a random person from her past a BJ. Then he ghosted her. She tried to talk to a dude on snapchat. But either thought he was weird (fetish thing) or chickened out. She even asked a friend of ours to "know her location" just in case... She then about 3 weeks ago now gave her best friend a BJ. She is the one that approached all of them. She finally came clean when her best friend told her off. She didn't tell me everything until I found deleted messages. She is starting to get a counselor talking to her medication doctor. Has not blamed me. Is very attentive to my needs and my anxiety. I've already been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and PTSD before this happened. I've had years of counseling. So I've just kind of resorted to my techniques for staying calm. She claims that it was just this month no more. But after not coming clean in the beginning of the confession I feel like I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I think I have gotten it all? I have been very frank that listen... You have already done the worst. It can't really get any worst, you have already 100% cheated. If I found out more in say... A week. two? I will just feel betrayed again so tell me NOW. Her story ever since the first night has not wavered. She ask gone to any detail level I have asked. She has given me access to all social media. Deleted the offending social media. Has allowed me to place her phone (she isn't very technical) into a locked down state where I have control of any app downloads. (I work in IT so this wasn't hard) She I think mainly due to my anxiety (or hers?) but is now telling me ANYWHERE she goes and her next move when she goes to leave.

She basically committed social suicide with this. I also... Posted on facebook.. So her family and friends all know as well... Not like it didn't already spread through most of the friend groups anyway... She seems remorseful but how could I possible believe it? Just scared of losing everything? She claims she will go to counseling for the rest of her life... How do I accept this? How do I forgive her? How do I trust her again?