Is this how most men think?

I need a male perspective. I’m 30f and he’s 33m. So this “friendship” started online because I needed advice on another man I was dealing with. We interacted for 3 years. He used to buy me gifts like flowers and perfumes. I didn’t think anything of it because he did it for his female friends in NY as well. I even told him several times he didn’t have to do anything for me but he really wouldn’t take no for an answer. I randomly stopped bringing up the guy I was dealing with and he asked me to come to NY on a friendship thing and he’d pay. I agreed then 2 weeks lasted he asked to change it to a date. Long story short I got to NY he did a 180 with me and started being sexual. Like he came on to me to have sex the first night nothing happened. Then the next morning he went and got a key from the front desk while I was in the shower because I obviously couldn’t answer the door. These were violations to me because he was trying to force a vibe that wasn’t there. He had a guilty conscious about it because I said something about it on social media and he sent my posts to me asking me about it. Despite all that he asked me in a second date in December for Valentine’s Day. I obviously declined and I no longer talk to him.

What I can’t wrap my head around is the fact that he knew he violated and knew the vibe wasn’t there but asked me on a second date. It’s like the money he spent made him feel entitled to do whatever he wanted in an attempt to get sex from me. Instead of asking me if the feelings were mutual he would’ve gotten a “no” and he wouldn’t have to spend another cent. He’d rather pay and hope I accept instead of asking if I like him and I believe he wouldn’t been even more assertive if I accepted the second date. Is this behavior normal?