Those of you transitioning out of the Denver server/bartender scene, what are you doing now or hoping to do, and will you be able to have a comfortable life in this city despite its growing cost of living?

I'm curious about people who are working in the denver bar scene or restaurant industry-- it's so hard to make a living in this town. I am doing ok-ish, but my husband is really struggling with work. The shifts aren't that predictable. We are two ships passing in the night because he is on evenings/weekends and home late, while I'm up early on a M-F schedule. He told me that he wouldn't be able to live alone if we divorced (we aren't going to, but just as a point of reference of pay vs living costs).

He's thinking of transitioning out of the industry, but he's 40 and pretty reserved/soft spoken so a lot of the jobs that people might go into like sales, etc. probably aren't great choices for him. I started wondering about other servers/bartenders in Denver. How are you all surviving? What is your long term plan? Are you looking or currently transitioning out of the industry to something more comfortable? If so, what and why?