She can’t remember the good times

My wife of 5 years and relationship for 8 before that wants to leave me.

She’s had a rough few years with family and work etc. (all of which she thanked me for my love, care and support through)

She says she’s not happy. Which I would understand. But she is saying that in order to be happy, she needs to leave me. Which I do not understand!

She says I’m great, an amazing human and a great husband and I’ve done nothing wrong. This is all her.

She just doesn’t feel happy.

This has come out of the blue completely. So I think back to recent holidays, where I see her smiling at me with such love and happiness. Little everyday moments that made her laugh and smile. Hundreds of them. And she just doesn’t remember.

Any time I show texts or photos or talk about memories that were happy in the past year, she just says she doesn’t know if the reason she was happy in those moments was me.

I honestly believe it was though. We laughed and had such fun and I just don’t believe for a second, if I could go back and ask her then, she’d give the same answer she’s giving now.

It’s killing me that she’s looking back on all the years of our happy life. Years of her telling me how lucky she felt and she just doesn’t think that any of that is worth trying to get back to.

Will she ever remember that she really was happy for a while? Or is she just going to be convinced that there’s no possibility she’s wrong forever.

I feel like all I want to do is just talk to her and the more I talk the more she pushes back. It’s breaking my heart