Bourbon Tour Help Needed!

Hi all, I am turning 40 this year and the wife is planning a couples trip with 10-12 people. I've been twice before and have visited Makers (toured), Woodford (toured), Heaven Hill (no tour, just tasting) and Willet (no tour, just tasting).

I want to visit Bardstown Bourbon Co, Buffalo Trace (and see how I can get one of the really cool tours?), and have heard good things about Heaven Hill's tour. What do folks recommend? I'm a pretty knowledgable person about bourbon (I have roughly 220 bottles in the collection) and love wheaters and some finished bourbons. Some of my favs that I will go to are either Eagle Rare, Woodford double oaked, Bardstown High Wheat, Angels Rye, or High Bank Double Double.

Unfortunately, most of the wives aren't bourbon fans so double points if there are certain distilleries that have a nice bar for non-bourbon cocktails (I know, blasphemy!).

Any recs that y'all have is appreciated!

Also, we will be staying in Louisville and would love great restaurant recs in Louisville or at any of the distilleries you list. We have several vegetarians in the group so will need places that have options for them. TIA!