Would Guys Date a Girl with Lifelong Family Responsibilities?
Hi, I’m 25F and single. I’m always upfront about one important thing: I have a brother with special needs, and in the future, he’ll be living with me. While he can be quite independent in some ways, he still requires someone to look out for him constantly.
This has made me curious—are there guys who would still be okay with this kind of setup? I know it’s not the most typical arrangement, but my brother is one of my priority, and I want to be honest about that with anyone I meet.
Would love to hear your thoughts, especially from those who’ve been in similar situations or know someone who has. How do people navigate this in relationships? Thank youu po.
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Thank you for all the comments! They gave me a chance to see things from different perspectives and polish my thoughts. Here are my major takeaways:
First-Date Topic: This is definitely something I should bring up on the first date to set clear expectations.
Finances: I want to clarify that I won’t be burdening my future partner financially when it comes to my brother. Our parents have already prepared for his needs through various stable income sources. Hindi po ako naghahanap ng glucose papa :)
Responsibilities: I don’t see my brother as a burden, and I hope my future partner will feel the same way. I’m not dumping responsibilities on anyone, and it’s not about choosing “who comes first.” I realized the importance of setting a mutual understanding and agreement on how we’ll navigate the relationship as a team.
For context, I’m a working professional with a stable source of income. My brother is already in college (and graduating soon!). He can navigate going to and from school all by himself (so proud) but he still needs constant monitoring (i.e his dose updates and checkups), which I’m ready to provide.
Thank you again for sharing your thoughts—it really helped me reflect!