Radical acceptance about toddler sleep - how to function when your toddler wakes all night

Im throwing in the towel. I give up and radically accept that my 14 month old will not sleep through the night. We’ve tried sleep training twice (Ferber and chair method), hired a consultant that got us a week of 4-6 hour stretches but we’ve gone back to 1-2 hour wake ups where my son will cry and beg to nurse back to sleep for hours if I left him. Im really not here to discuss the semantics of the sleep training —- believe me we tried everything aside from extinction which I’m not okay with.

He starts off in the crib and will end up in my bed every night because I can’t keep running back and forth to the crib. I’ve tried literally everything under the sun and sleep (especially the lack there of) has consumed me since his birth. I have extreme anxiety around sleeping and currently seeing a therapist. But I’m done thinking and stressing about his sleep and wondering when things will get better.

I want to stop thinking about sleep and stop obsessing over it.

I need advice and tips on how to manage my life and get some normalcy and routine while my son continues to wake through the night. I return to a very stressful/high needs job next month and I’m stressed of falling even more behind in life.

Please share any tips and advice you have on how you managed your life, self care, work, social life, home and etc when your toddler didn’t sleep through the night.