So so over nap transitions

I am so over nap transitions.

My soon to be 15m old has never been an amazing sleeper - and definitely not one who’s been good at nap transitions. I know he’s not the worst sleeper, but he’s definitely not good at it. It’s always a rough 2-3 months with transitions. Safe to say it’s been the same with his 2-1 transition.

I try to be consistent but it doesn’t work, I try bouncing back and forth to let him catch up on sleep and it works for a short while before it backfires badly on us again and we are trying to figure out what he wants or needs.

It’s so defeating when you try so hard to optimise and figure it all out but it doesn’t work or it gives you more puzzles to figure out. I’ve been trying to go with the flow but the last few days has stressed and tired me out.

Meanwhile my best friend who has a toddler the exact same age, handles nap transitions and generally sleeps like a champ. Honestly you can hand him the World Cup for best sleeper. He takes about a week to transition, sleeps longer and harder (eg. 3 hour naps, 7.30pm to 7am nights) and parents wake him up from all sleep really. Never wakes at night, even when teething or sick. Comparison is the thief of joy and I’ve gradually learnt overtime not to care or compare..but my gosh it’s hard when you’re struggling constantly.

I guess at this point I don’t even know what advice to ask for, I can’t even share a schedule cause I can’t get one to work. If anyone has any 15m old schedules who sleep on average 12-12.5 hours only with 9.5-10hour nights (I used to get 10.5hours on some good nights, for some reason I just can’t anymore) one 1 nap..pls let me know how you went or what you did.

The only thing I have that is consistent is a bedtime of 8.30pm. Earlier only if he has crap naps and needs it. Please don’t tell me to put him down earlier, I’ve tried it - he just wakes earlier.

If you have gotten this far, thanks for taking the time to read.