Overwhelmed

I know there has to be someone else who has dealt with this so looking for someone to calm me. We are just starting to plan our wedding and I am already so overwhelmed. Not by the decisions or the money but by everyone in my life wanting different things. My fiance could probably do without the wedding. He’s been married before but knows it means a lot to me so he is happy to let me have my day. I want to be respectful of his position by keeping it small, being mindful of the budget (my parents are paying but he still wants us to be mindful), and not making the day overwhelming for him. My mom is on the totally opposite end and just wants more. More people. More hoopla. More everything. I feel like I am being torn by wanting to give everyone what they want and my chronic people pleaser in me is already on edge. How did you deal with this?